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loving someone so hard you forget you're a separate person with your own snacks.
means a relationship pattern where your mood, worth, and decisions orbit entirely around managing someone else's problems.
from coined in 1970s addiction-treatment circles to describe spouses of alcoholics who organized their whole identity around the drinker's chaos — turns out the pattern outlived the term's original context.
not just romanceshows up in friendships, families, coworkers too
looks like loveoften praised as devotion before it's named
fixing addictionoriginally described enablers, not addicts themselves