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two people taking turns being briefly fascinating while waiting to talk about themselves
means a spoken exchange between two or more people, where ideas, questions, and replies pass back and forth.
from From Latin conversari, 'to keep company with, to live among' — built from con- ('together') and versari ('to turn, to dwell'), a frequentative of vertere ('to turn'). It came into Old French as conversation and reached English in the 14th century, where for centuries it meant simply 'living together' or 'how one behaves in society' — only later narrowing to the verbal back-and-forth we mean today. So at its root, conversation is about turning toward one another, dwelling in each other's company.
- turn timing
- Humans swap speaking turns in about 200 milliseconds
- universal gap
- That pause is nearly identical across all languages
- backchannel
- 'Mhm' and 'yeah' keep talkers from quitting mid-thought
- mirror effect
- People unconsciously copy each other's words and posture
- sweet limit
- Groups fracture into smaller chats past roughly four people
lincoln-douglas debates — abraham lincoln and stephen douglas, 7 debates across illinois in 1858
kennedy-nixon debate — jfk and richard nixon, first televised presidential debate in 1960
socratic method — socrates questioning his students in ancient athens, recorded by plato
oxford union — historic debating society at oxford university founded in 1823