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What rough things become after enough heat, pressure, and pretending the early drafts never happened.
means Purified, polished, or made elegant by removing impurities, crudeness, or rough edges.
from From Latin re- plus the Old French fin, meaning fine or pure; literally to re-fine, to make fine again and again until the dross gives up.
SugarRefined means stripped white and stripped of nutrients.
Oil refineryCrude becomes gasoline through brutal industrial distillation.
Double meaningApplies equally to manners and petroleum.