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the quiet superpower of noticing what nobody asked you to notice
means the quality of considering others' feelings and needs, or of giving something careful and serious thought.
from Built from the Old English noun 'thoht' (a thought, an act of thinking), itself from the verb 'thencan' (to think) — a cousin of German 'denken' and the source of our 'think.' Add the suffix '-ful' (full of) and you get 'thoughtful,' full of thought; add '-ness' and you bottle the whole quality. So at root it simply means being brimming with thought, whether about a problem or about another person.
- brain cost
- deliberate thinking burns measurable extra glucose
- memory trick
- recalling someone's small detail signals deep status to them
- slow by design
- the brain's reflective system is deliberately sluggish
- gift science
- thoughtful presents beat expensive ones for lasting joy
- rare metric
- unprompted kindness reads as more genuine than reciprocated
fred rogers — mr. rogers' neighborhood host who wrote 895 episodes with deliberate emotional intelligence for children
simone weil — french philosopher who gave away her rations during wwii to match her countrymen's suffering
jane goodall — primatologist who spent 60+ years in gombe studying chimpanzees with meticulous individual attention