the muscle that lets you stomach what you can't stand without becoming what you hate
means The capacity or willingness to accept, endure, or allow things you disagree with or find difficult—whether opinions, behaviors, pain, or a substance—without breaking down or pushing back.
from From Latin tolerare, "to bear, endure, put up with"—the same root that gives us "toleration" and is a cousin of "extol" and possibly the Greek tlenai ("to suffer, undergo"). It entered English in the 15th century, first meaning the literal endurance of pain or hardship; the sense of "putting up with other people's beliefs" came later, and the medical sense (a body "tolerating" a drug, needing more for the same effect) later still. At its heart the word never meant approval—only the strength to bear.