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the velvet hammer that bruises feelings and saves relationships in the same breath
means Honest, frank, open speech — the willingness to say the true thing plainly, even when it stings.
from From Latin candor, meaning whiteness, brightness, or radiance — literally a glowing, gleaming purity, built on candēre, 'to shine' (the same root that gives us candle, candid, and incandescent). The Romans stretched that physical brilliance into a moral one: a 'shining' clarity of character, sincerity without shadow. So when you speak with candor, you're etymologically letting the light through — nothing hidden, nothing dimmed.
- latin root
- From candere, to shine or glow white
- shared lineage
- Sibling of candle, candid, and incandescent
- radical version
- Ray Dalio built a hedge fund on it
- the cost
- Honesty feels free until someone hears it
for instance
radical honesty movement — brad blanton's 1994 practice of speaking complete truth in relationships, documented in his book