the.com/spotlight effect
you think everyone noticed your stumble; everyone was busy starring in their own show.
means a cognitive bias where people overestimate how much others notice their appearance, mistakes, or behavior.
from named and demonstrated by psychologist Thomas Gilovich in a 1999 study where subjects wore embarrassing t-shirts and wildly overestimated how many peers would remember it.
study propa barry manilow t-shirt, worn on purpose
real recall rateabout half of what people predicted
root causeyou cannot exit your own head to check
related biasillusion of transparency, feeling emotions show